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Acceptance (350):

In my opinion, this marks the second waking point for an individual, where he/she is fully awake from his/her sleepwalker status. Here, one realizes that he/she is the creator and source of his/her life, as opposed to having relegated part of his/her power to someone else or a different entity. He/she (1) is aware of the social constructs present in one’s life, whether family, society, nation, religion, or work, (2) is able to discern against (limiting) beliefs, viewpoints, and social conditioning, and (3) can consciously craft his/her life above and beyond these social constructs.

The behavior at this level is acceptance vs. rejection, seeking for resolution vs. judging whether something is right or wrong, having a long-term vs. short-term view, engaging in life harmoniously based on its terms vs. resisting it, and striving for excellence and growth. Forgiveness is the dominant emotion. Forgive because we also have our shortcomings and imperfections, remember it’s just we didn’t make mistake this time. Forgive because it is the only way to have peace in life. The process one undergoes is transcendence (above what one faces in life). The life view here is harmonious.

Innocent people are not fools; they just think that everyone has a heart. Beliefs represent the acceptance of something without any proof to back up what we accept as fact rather than experienced it. Learning to accept what is most difficult, can be one of the most trying learning experiences of our lives. we can learn what it means to be accepting, to let things go and move forward, we could find peace, and a huge weight lifted off of us. This is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves. Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there’s got to be a way through it. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance. Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery. Marriage equality is about more than just marriage. It’s about something greater. It’s about acceptance. When we accept ourselves for what we are, we decrease our hunger for power or the acceptance of others because our self-intimacy reinforces our inner sense of security. We are no longer preoccupied with being powerful or popular. We no longer fear criticism because we accept the reality of our human limitations. Your mind can never allow self-acceptance, since it is by nature self-contradictory and divisive. You work so hard to fix yourself. Being authentic begins with unconditional self-acceptance – imperfections and all. You can’t stop the ocean waves, but you can learn to surf. My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations. Acceptance, tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons. The acceptance of death gives you more of a stake in life, in living life happily, as it should be lived. Living for the moment. Parents need to teach their children principles of respect and acceptance. Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness and accept them but because you deserve peace. Acceptance is someone who takes the time to listen when we are at our lowest is rare and should be valued. To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. Train your mind to accept disappointments even when they come from people you trusted with your heart. Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept your mind already knows.

We should be like this teacher: A young man saw his primary school teacher on a wedding. He went to greet him with all the respect and admiration. He said to him: “Do you remember me, Teacher?” The teacher said: “No, please introduce yourself.” The student said: “I was your student in the 3rd Grade, I am the one who stole the watch of a child in the classroom. I will remind you but I am sure you remember the story.” One of the boys in my class had a beautiful watch, so I decided to steal it. He came to you crying that someone had stolen his watch. You asked us to stand so as to search our pockets. I realized that my action would be exposed in front of the Students and Teachers. I will be called a thief, a liar and my character will be shattered forever. You asked us to stand and face the wall and close our eyes completely. You went searching from pocket to pocket, and when you reached my pocket you pulled the watch out of my pocket, and you continued until you searched the last student. After you finished you asked us to open our eyes and to sit on our chairs. I was afraid you will expose me in front of the students. You showed the watch to the class, and gave it back to the boy, and you never mentioned the name of the one who stole the watch. You never said a word to me, and you never mentioned the story to anyone. Throughout my school life, none of the teachers nor the students talked about me stealing the watch. I thought to myself you saved my dignity that day. The teacher said: “I can’t remember who stole the watch that day, because I searched the pockets of all of you while my eyes were also closed.” Our education needs wisdom. As Teachers, Parents, Leaders, we should be able to understand the consequences of our actions.

Some truths are hard to accept, but it opens our hearts to the magic of life and that is where the strength appear after tears and faith develops to heal ourselves and others. Compassionate Dialogue is the only means of bridging a peace process. Those who forgive and those who accepts them have a larger heart and higher worlds. Gratitude helps us to acceptance and secure our future, otherwise super pride will bring future insecurity. Life is not once, it is again and again, moment by moment, so keep accepting with your gentleness. Trust may be like a glass certainly, once broken, it will never be the same again, but forgiveness and acceptance are like a glue that re-shapes to back again. Reshaping doesn’t necessarily have to be perfect because no one is perfect. Acceptance and getting along in the journey of life gives a meaning and purpose of life. Say what you feel, I will accept you; don’t make your heart heavy with unexpressed heavy feelings. Acceptance is lifting people, taking their load off. Nothing endures but change, and accepting this has the potential to transform the dread of dying into joyful living. As the water shapes itself to the vessel that contains it, a wise man should adapt himself to circumstances.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. There is always some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of ordinary us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our so called enemies and forgive them and become a good friends for life. Some people will never change, so you just have to accept that. Today I choose the higher road- the path of charity, acceptance, love, selfishness, kindness. Happiness is a function of accepting what is. It is not my place to doubt the sincere beliefs of others. When you do your best, with joy, you learn to accept yourself. Celebrate our similarities and Respect differences. Practice the art of radical acceptance and feel the inner stress of resistance dissolve into peace and understanding. Nothing endures but change, and accepting this has the potential to transform the dread of dying into joyful living. Expecting and Accepting are two sides of life, where expecting ends in tears, accepting makes you cheer. Accept life the way it comes. Sometimes, you heart needs more time to accept your mind already knows. It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. The stress is the gap between our expectations and reality. The bigger the gap the more stress. So, expect nothing, and accept everything.

Posted January 14, 2020 by arjunlimbu in Uncategorized

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