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Grief (75):

Feelings of regret, sadness and loss are abounded here. Many people vibrate at this level in times of loss — of loved ones, relationships, possessions, jobs, and wealth. The outcome is mourning, feeling remorse, regret, and being hung up over what has happened. Someone grieving feels despondent and bleak about the world and life around him/her. The life view is tragic. Grief is a higher level than apathy, because one starts feeling more energy at this level, albeit energies of sadness and loss.

Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us. The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief – But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love. Grief is the price we pay for love. Believe me, every heart has its secret sorrows, which the world knows not. There are no happy endings. Endings are the saddest part, so just give me a happy middle path to a very happy new, fresh start. There is a sacredness in tears. Tears are the silent language of grief. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. While grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till it be digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it. Sometimes, only one person is missing, and the whole world seems depopulated. Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion to death. Times of grief are vulnerable and difficult, but you’re not alone. Grief never ends, but keeps changing. Grief can undermine your ability to cope with daily activities. I don’t think of all the misery, but of all the beauty that remains. we can also try to alleviate that grief a bit through self-encouragement. It is okay to grief. I’m not a cactus expert, but I know a prick when I see one, and grief is a prick pain and there are many cacti in life. Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect. It is important to know how to feel, how to respond, and how to let life in so that it can touch you. We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are, therefore, vipassana meditation is essential to see the truth (the reality) as it is with no reaction even though it tends to affect our emotions. When you give and expect a return that’s an investment, but when you give and expect nothing that’s pure love. When you forgive, joy will replace grief, peace will replace anger, love will replace hate and contentment will replace frustration. It’s time to just be happy, being angry, sad and overthinking isn’t worth it anymore, just let things flow in life, just observe without attachments – be positive. What’s done is done what’s gone is gone. One of life’s lessons is always moving on. Don’t wait for someone else to heal your wounds, only you know how deep they are and hold your hand to your heart and say ‘it’s alright’. Never wish them pain, that’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must be in pain – wish them healing. To see a man beaten not by a better opponent, but by himself is a tragedy. There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.

Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim because in midst of vast ocean the education of meteorology, hydrology have less value as compared to swimology when your sophisticated titanic boat is drowning. Suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope. So, even in grief, do not lose hope. Don’t grieve, we must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. The pain passes, but the beauty remains. It is perfectly okay to admit you’re not okay. To spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price of total detachment. Anything you lose comes around in another form. Life goes on. Keep your head up. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers. Journey is individual. You will survive and you will find purpose in the chaos. Moving on doesn’t mean letting go. Our time will also come, but it’s just not now, until then, leave a good memory until you live. What we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory, which will be revealed to us later with more peace and prosperity. Grief is essential in life in order to reduce our ego and move towards love for all sentient beings. When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure. An eternal memory, until we meet again. If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever. There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone the light remains. When it is the darkest, only then, we can see the stars. Learn to be a treasure. Everyone can master a grief with awareness intelligence. Never blame with grief anyone in your life. Good people give you happiness. Bad people give you experience. Worst people give you a lesson and Best people give you memories. Perhaps all anxiety might derive from a fixation on moments- an ability to accept life as ongoing. Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it. Dead people receive more flowers than living ones because regret is stronger than gratitude.  To live is to suffer in grief, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering. The world is afflicted by death and decay. But the wise do not grieve, having realized the nature of the world. When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million empty words. Sometimes you must hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain, because most of the life’s greatest lessons are learned through pain and grief.  Forget who hurt you yesterday, but don’t forget who love you every day. Forget the past that make you cry and focus on the present that make you smile. Forget the pain but never the lessons you gained. People always question the good things they hear about you and believe the bad things without a second thought. Suffering is only the place or state where you rewind what went wrong and get to know yourself deeper than a mirror displays. We all need people who will give us feedback, that’s how we improve, nothing to grieve over. Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.

Pain is a sign that you’re alive. Problem is a sign that you’re strong. Prayer is a sign that you’re not alone. If friendship is you’re the weakest point, then, you are the strongest person in the world. Build a dream, and dream will build you back. No one wants to hear this, but truth to be told- a long lasting relationship comes with a lot of forgiveness and understanding other side of story. The earth is small and round, so bound to meet either here or there, so live a peaceful clear, straight relationship. Single is not a status. It is a word that best describes a person, who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others. Inner peace is the key. Just because I did not react does not mean I did not notice. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems. Look for someone who won’t let you face them alone.

Posted January 14, 2020 by arjunlimbu in Uncategorized

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