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Guilt (30): Feelings of blame and remorse hover in this level. These feelings are used to consciously or subconsciously manipulate conformance to certain forms of thinking and behaviors. This level is dominant in governments who are high-handed and uses heavy public punishment; in societies with a blame culture; and in religious institutions with a preoccupation with “sin” and “salvation.” This level cultivates destruction. Hawkins cites the life view as evil, though I disagree and feel that condemnation is more adept. A person at the level of guilt is not necessarily evil nor does he/she see the world as evil, but rather focuses a lot on condemning self and others. A good manipulator can make you feel guilty and sorry even about your best qualities.

Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one’s own actions or lack of action. Guilt is also a way for us to express to others that we are a person of good conscience. So, no guilt is forgotten so long as the conscience still knows of it. Every man is guilty of all the good he didn’t do. Guilt upon the conscience, like rust upon iron, both defiles and consumes it, gnawing and creeping into it, as that does which at last eats out the very heart and substance of the metal. Guilt is something small people feel when they run out of excuses for their behavior. So, the Repentant tears also help to wash out the stain of guilt and lighten your heavy heart and gross head. It is okay to feel guilty because no amount of guilt can solve the past and no amount of anxiety can change future, unless it is discussed, accept humbly, and learn to ask and give forgiveness.

Guilt is a useless feeling and always remain hungry, don’t let it consume you and one should not stay in this mental state for long. Guilt is a beautiful emotion that alerts us when something is wrong so that we may achieve peace with our conscience. Without conscience there would be no morality. So we can greet guilt cordially and with acceptance, just as we do all other emotions. After we respond to guilt, it has done its job and we can release it. Quickly, approach Dialogue with right intention to ask or give forgiveness is a method to come out of guilt for any past ignorance caused and extend loving-kindness relationship. Releasing guilt is like removing a huge weight from your shoulders. Guilt is released through the empowering thought of love and respect for yourself. Let go of standards of perfection and refuse to use up the precious currency of your life, the now, with thoughts that continue to frustrate and weaken you. Instead, vow to be better than you used to be, which is the true test of nobility. Guilt trips are a passive-aggressive form of manipulation and bullying. They are designed to give the manipulator exactly what they want at your expense. Your feelings and needs don’t matter. By refusing to play their games and act or feel guilty, you disarm them and they lose their power over you.

What is guilt? It is moral self-reproach-I did wrong when it was possible to have done otherwise. Guilt is an indulgence; it entangles you in the past.  You won’t be free from guilt if you are constantly replaying the negative memories of your past. If you’re going to replay anything, replay your victories!  There are two kinds of guilt: the kind that drowns you until you’re useless, and the kind that fires your soul to purpose. Better Make friends with guilt. If you don’t get hurt, you will never be brave. Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you’re wrong and the other is right. It just means you value your relationship more than your ego, guilt, hubris, achievements. When we are wrong and we surrender, it means we are honest and sincere from the bottom of heart. When we are in doubt, and we surrender, it means we are wise. But when we are right and we surrender, it means we value relationship. This mental state wishes to live in society peacefully again, if society accepts and forgives one’s guilt when one admits it and transform oneself totally. In life, when one door closes, another opens certainly; but we often look so long waiting to open at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for you. A lot of people keep their feelings to themselves because they’re tired of pouring their hearts out to the wrong person. You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance – you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small, insignificant. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their decent, honest behavior with realization and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores you boundaries, and ‘continues’ to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.

Posted January 14, 2020 by arjunlimbu in Uncategorized

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